165. A Radical + Helpful Outline for Life *Warning - It might actually change your life!*
The notes below are from a talk by Jeremy Pryor that we discuss on episode 165 of the walk in love. podcast which you can listen to on the following :
*Please note that this talk was given to a bunch of business owners.
The Elder Path - What is the good life?
We don’t need older man telling us that in our 20’s when we have the most freedom to indulge is the good life.
Psalm 128:6 - “May you live to see your children’s children”
The grandfather who live to see his children’s children is the good life.
What does it look like to get to the good life?
Years 0-10
Kids - Early and Often:
🔗 Principle: When you have kids in your 20’s determines what your family will look like in your 60’s.
⚠️ Watch out: Making a permanent decision based on temporary physical exhaustion.
Money: Use time to build assets
🔗 Principle: You build a business by saying yes, you scale a business by saying no.
⚠️ Watch out: Don’t switch teams - switching from family to business.
Wife: Create a co-founder culture (our family is a start-up and Brooke and I are co-founders)
🔗 Principle: Craft a united vision of the future.
⚠️ Watch out: Creeping separateness that erodes companionship.
Rhythm: Sabbath
🔗 Principle: Taste and see the kingdom every 7 days.
⚠️ Watch out: Not understanding that it takes work to rest.
A skill to practice - Build how you rest in 24 hours?
House: Establishing a culture first
🔗 Principle: Make your house a theme park for your family values.
⚠️ Watch out: Buying your multigenerational house too early.
Years 10-20 - Nurturing Growth
Kids: Team Spirit
🔗 Principle: Honoring birth order in the team.
⚠️ Watch out: The number of kids matter in a sibling team dynamic.
There is social science to show that 4-7 kids is the magic number to have the best possibility for a positive turnout for your kids.
We want to constantly engage out kids abilities to benefit the family.
Money: Develop your investment thesis
🔗 Principle: The father must take a personal responsibility for becoming a disciplined investor.
⚠️ Watch out : Waiting to launch your legacy business because you’re putting everything in your scale business.
What are the capital intensive assets your are going to invest in?
Wife: Resource her Proverbs 31 style
🔗 Principle: Your transitioning from building a family to establishing a household.
⚠️ Watch out: Always your maiden - always see her as the person you married. She’s on the trajectory from maiden, mother to matriarch but as her husband I must always see her as a maiden.
During this season your wife has to learn to establish an entire household.
Engaging in business.
Employ help around the family.
Rhythms: Summits
🔗 Principle: Lead the whole family as one team.
⚠️ Watch out: Leave no one behind by winning each of their hearts.
Pay the closest attention to the one who is most likely to resist.
The entire team dynamic is most determined by the child that is most likely to resist.
You really need to win their heart.
House: Discover your land
🔗 Principle: Decide where you’ll be buried.
⚠️ Watch out: Is there enough opportunity for your kids to expand and thrive in the land?
Burial is not about you, it’s about where you established roots.
Years 20 - 30 (Jeremy is testing this right now, he’ll let us know in 5 years)*
Kids: Radical Missionaries
🔗 Principle: Experience the implications of Lordship in a total devotion to Jesus.
⚠️ Watch out: Educational experience that subtly communicated the Devine revelation is not real.
“The calling on your life is not the same as the calling on their life!”
